-Finner jeg kjærligheten?

Nå på begynnelsen av året, er det høysesong for  gjøre readinger for folk. Det nye året er en frisk start og en mulighet til å mentalt legge ting bak seg og se lyst på framtida, og mange ønsker å vite litt om det året som ligger foran dem. Siden mange av kundene mine er flinke til å bruke readingene mine, og tar tak i ting de ikke liker, er dette arbeid jeg synes er veldig kjekt.

Men når man skriver mange readinger på kort tid, er det enkelte spørsmål som går igjen oftere enn andre (det er jo naturlig, enkelte ting er viktigere for oss mennesker enn andre ting). Og jammen har jeg ikke merket meg at det er enkelte svar som kommer oftere enn andre også. La meg forklare:

Veldig mange lurer på om de noen sinne vil finne kjærligheten. Og det skjønner jeg godt. Lever man alene er det naturlig å lure på det, og jeg tror alle som har vært alene over litt tid kjenner på at det er grenser for hvor mange frosker man kan kysse før en prins bør materialisere seg. Mennesket er nå en gang flokkdyr, og alle trenger å kjenne at man hører til et sted, at man har sin egen lille flokk. Men det er som er interessant i denne sammenhengen, er ikke det at mange lurer på dette, men det at veldig mange får svar som ligner på hverandre.

Flere ganger i uka, skriver vi nemlig til folk som får til svar at "jeg ser en langvarig partner for deg, men jeg tror ikke dere bor sammen. Jeg ser dere gjøre mye sammen, reise sammen, dele opplevelser og være hverandres partner. Men dere beholder hver deres bolig, og jeg ser dere også gjøre ting separat med deres respektive familier." Mange blir naturligvis litt skuffet over dette svaret, men etter å ha gitt MANGE slike readinger, har vi begynt å reflektere litt over det og sammenligne den trenden vi ser i readingene med det vi ser rundt oss i samfunnet. Og det stemmer over ens. Mange opplever samlivsbrudd, fulgt av noen kortere forhold, mens man igjen finner balansen i en ny tilværelse. Så vokser barna opp og greier seg selv, man får mer fritid og frihet, og ønsker kanskje å dele den med noen. Samtidig har man allerede gått igjennom et samlivsbrudd, måttet starte på nytt og ønsker ikke å gjøre det igjen. Dermed oppstår nye samlivsformer.

Vi skal ikke mange åra bakover i tid før kvinner var totalt avhengige av å "ha en mann". De færreste kvinner for et par generasjoner siden tjente nok til å forsørge seg og sitte på egen eiendom. Dermed holdt kanskje ekteskap som ikke ville overlevd i den hverdagen vi lever nå. Men i dag er ting annerledes. Ingen MÅ ha en partner for å leve et fullverdig liv. Ingen MÅ bli i et forhold som ikke gir dem noe. Dermed får vi flere samlivsbrudd, men også flere muligheter til lykke.

Mange drømmer om "lykkelig i alle sine dager". Men de som virkelig lever sammen til døden skiller dem ad, vil kunne fortelle at dagene heller ikke for dem alltid er bare lykkelige. Samliv og lykke handler om valg, som alt annet. Og med det samfunnet vi har i dag, er det kanskje ikke slik at EN partner vil kunne gjøre deg lykkelig hele livet? Folk vokser og endrer seg hele tida, og det som gjorde deg lykkelig for femten år siden, er neppe det samme som gjør deg lykkelig i dag. Noen ganger vokser par i samme retning, noen ganger i ulike.

Det jeg tror blir poenget med dette bloggposten, er en ting som også går igjen i disse readingene: "Jeg ser dere ikke bo sammen permanent, men dere tilbringer mye tid sammen, og dere gjør hverandre lykkelige." Og det er det som er viktig, er det ikke? Å være lykkelig og tilfreds. Så spiller det kanskje mindre rolle om man deler postkasse eller ikke...?

Healing av hest

Det blir mye hest fra oss om dagen, men siden sist har vi fått en del henvendelser om healing av hest, så vi tenkte vi skulle skrive litt om det her. Kort fortalt er det med hester som med mennesker: Jeg kan gi dem healing for konkrete lidelser/skader/sykdommer, og jeg kan snakke med dem/gjøre en reading på dem, noe som er spesielt praktisk hvis man har en hest med adferdsmessige utfordringer.

Mye av healingen jeg gjør på hester, dreier seg om helbredelse av skader. Akkurat som når jeg jobber med mennesker, understreker jeg at jeg IKKE vil at noen unnlater å søke medisinsk hjelp fra veterinær eller andre fagfolk, men healingen kan ofte hjelpe med å gjøre helbredelsesperioden kortere og styrke det skadede området videre. I tillegg kan jeg ta bort eller lindre smerter.

Alle som har holdt på litt med hest, vet at de to største utfordringene deres ligger i bein og fordøyelse. Fordøyelse er noe jeg har jobbet MYE med på mennesker, og der effekten er umiddelbar. Dette fungerer også godt på hest. Når det gjelder bein, er det selvsagt et hav av skader og problemer som kan oppstå, men med de aller fleste kan healing gjøre rekonvalesensen både kortere og mer komfortabel. I tillegg kan healing virke forebyggende, ved å styrke svake eller utsatte deler av hestens bein og gjøre dem mindre sårbare for at skaden skal gjenta seg.

Når det gjelder readinger, har jeg gjort det både på hester med adferdsproblemer og hester som konkurrerer på høyt nivå i ulike grener. Hvis en hest viser tydelige endringer i oppførselen sin, nekter å gjøre noe eller lager problemer ut av noe den har gjort tidligere, kan det være greit med en prat. Ofte mistenker kanskje eieren hva som er galt, men det er greit å få ord på det. Slik kan en reading gjøre det lettere å bryte de dårlige mønstrene og jobbe rundt problemet for å løse det. Med hester som konkurrerer på høyt nivå er det også avgjørende at den mentale helsen er like sterk som den fysiske. Hvis en hest ikke presterer så bra som den kan eller bør, kan det dreie seg om små justeringer i kommunikasjonen mellom hest og menneske, endringer i treningsopplegg eller andre rutiner. Og der er en reading gull verdt. Readingen er et godt verktøy for alle som vil forstå og jobbe bedre med hesten sin, uansett hvilket nivå man har på hesteholdet sitt. Det kan også by på en god bekreftelse av det man driver med og bringer hest og eier nærmere hverandre.

Rent praktisk, jobber jeg med hester likens som med mennesker. Den eneste forskjellen, er at mens jeg kan gi et menneske healing eller en Reading over avstand uten å ha sett vedkommende før, må jeg med hester møte dem i alle fall en gang for å jobbe med dem. Har jeg først hatt hendene mine på hesten en gang, kan jeg lett følge opp over avstand, men det er helt nødvendig å møte dyret en gang først.

Framover skal dere få bli kjent med hestene våre og hvordan vi har brukt og bruker disse teknikkene til å jobbe med dem. Og er det noen der ute som tenker at dere har en god case for meg, er det bare å ta kontakt.

Spring fling!

Now that we've moved from the lofty heights of Gjøra to the centre of the sprawling metropolis that is Sunndalsøra, spring has taken me by surprise! Usually, I would be cursing that there is never going to be enough time for my vegetables to grow before harvesting. Now, I'm thinking damn it, I should have had my squash and carrots in the ground already! Nature has beaten me to it again!

Thankfully, I am getting more time at home these days, less travelling around the country and so there is time enough to play at being the gardener. It's not that I don't like travelling around Norway, but what with four children, three horses, a wife and a dog, my time is much better spent closer to home.

Pleasantly, it does allow me to work in a very effective way – e-mail readings. There is something to be said for being able to shut the world out, connect with a client and write a reading in the comfort of my own office (steaming bowl of lady grey to the left). There is such a benefit to having a reading presented to you in black and white, or blue and white . . . or green and white, depending on what mood I'm in. It allows clients to be able to read it again and again, rather than having to remember what what said, face to face.

Sticking to the memory of spring, here at the international headquarters of Simon Milton-Jones Healer and Medium, we are offering e-mail readings at half price (500kr). Other than arguing with Mother Nature about when the squash seeds should have been planted, spring is usually a time of renewed vigour, stamping your feet into the ground and making big decisions. There is something about it all that gives us a sense of empowerment, optimism and a feeling that things are on their way up.

So, for me, this spring, I plan on doing more and more e-mail readings, not just so I will have time closer to home but also because it's a nice way of connecting with my clients and giving them something personal and memorable. As of writing this blog, I still have no seeds in the ground but I do have a very nice 40 year old gressløk plant (chives) that is declaring itself the supreme winner of all things coming early this year. Impressive.

Memento Mori

Well, Christmas is upon us once again, my bank account is giving me dirty looks and I’ve not yet bought the food and wine necessary to satisfy my plump belly!  Never mind, money comes and goes, no matter how much or little you have – today I read that Mark Zuckerberg (founder of Facebook) is worth $45 billion so unless he has a really, really bad day, I think he is probably the exception to the rule.

Anyway, I digress, my point in this blog has nothing to do with Mark and his billions but more to do with two small words, Memento Mori. Memento Mori – remember death. It sounds really morbid, remember death, but it’s now going to be my catch phrase. At the time of the black death and subsequent generations, Memento Mori was everywhere, painted onto buildings, carved above doorways, everywhere. The idea was that we should never forget that life can be short, death could be just around the corner and so LIVE! Live life like you may not see many more days.

We have all heard the saying, live today like it’s your last and I guess it’s a modern day version of Memento Mori. I am sure there were such sayings coming out of the last world war as well. And today it’s probably more real for those fleeing their homeland and risking everything for the chance of a safe life.

For some years I’ve been talking about life being about having experiences, doing things, experiencing new sides of life, actively getting out and doing the things you have fancied trying. Because, at the end of the day, once you are dead, there is no more physical body, no more flesh and bone to push down a mountain on skis, no more base jumping from weird and wonderful places in Norway, no more crazy sex in public places (it’s not just me!). Once we are dead, all the physical experiences we can have are gone. While we are alive, it is our personal responsibility to do whatever it is that sets a spark under us, to experience all the things we would like to do.

I promise every single person reading this, once you are dead, you will want to be a person who can say, “I DID THAT”. All of the experiences we have while alive will be taken with us, they are an integral part of who we are. We are the sum of our experiences to date. Be someone who is able to say, I did that, not someone who has to say, I didn’t do it. Puhhh. I didn’t do it, is one of the saddest things to take with you out of this life.

Memento Mori, sums up this philosophy for me. Memento Mori, remember death, live life. Use your life as a way of gaining as many experiences as you can. Good experiences, bad ones and downright ugly ones. The bad and ugly are just as important as the good, they all make us who we are. This is your purpose in life!

Lastly, decide from today what experiences you would like to have before you die and let that be the compass for your life ahead. If climbing an active volcano in Iceland floats your boat, do it. If walking the Inca trail is just a fantasy, find a way to make it happen. If taking a year out and sailing around the world burns within you, buy a boat!

The point here is that while you are alive, use your life to do the things you imagine. Be someone who dies and is able to say, I did that and not, I didn’t do it. The New Year is on its way again and there will be plenty of new resolutions to quit smoking, join the gym. Forget all that nonsense, make a resolution to do something only your imagination has dared share with you.

Murder victim

Not so long ago, I met with a client who wanted to speak to her dead best friend and it was clear from the moment she sat down that it wasn’t going to be a straight forward reading.

It’s normal for me to know nothing about a new client or why they come to see me and this case was no exception.  As I began describing how I work and what clients can generally expect from a reading of this kind, I could feel a woman (dead) standing to my right and I felt sure this was the woman my client wanted to speak with.

So, here is the story; my client’s best friend died in an accident while she was enjoying some time with her boyfriend. There was a crash and the boyfriend was thrown from the scene but the girlfriend was trapped and was unable to escape. The boyfriend was in a state of shock and found himself unable to do anything to help. He wasn’t able to call for help for almost five hours after the accident. Unfortunately, the girlfriend was dead by this point.

Hmmm, well there is nothing weird about that, these things happen and that’s what the police also thought. It’s a tragic accident.

OK, back to my client, I provided strong evidence that it was her best friend that was with us and we moved on. The dead person who we shall call Kari came through to me so very clearly and her energy was so strong that there was no mistaking what she was saying, “This was no accident”. Kari went on to say that she had been beaten by her boyfriend a number of times during their relationship and this wasn’t an unusual thing. The best friend was already aware of the abuse. On this particular day, Kari and boyfriend had had another fight and he had beaten her in such a way that it was clearly visible to anyone looking at her. The boyfriend, an intensely jealous man with an anger issue, was concerned about how his girlfriend looked and that people would notice what he had done, public opinion was important to the boyfriend.

Without going into every aspect of the accident, I can tell you that Kari described the incident in devastating detail, leaving very little to the imagination. Kari showed that the boyfriend tried to make the situation appear as an accident when in fact it was engineered to cover up what he had done to her and to prevent her from speaking out about him. Kari talked about seeing her boyfriend sitting to the side, away from the scene, watching and waiting. Through her eyes, he was waiting for her to definitely be dead . . . and then, almost five hours later, he phoned the police. Kari was trapped, unable to breath, unable to escape and according to her, the boyfriend just sat there waiting.

This is still an ongoing case for the Norwegian Police and although the boyfriend has been arrested, the case against him is not for murder and it is expected that he will serve no more than 8 months in prison if convicted.

I saw all of the events play out through her eyes, I felt her shock, turn to horror, then panic followed by a frustrated resignation and finally relaxation. Kari left me with the absolute feeling that she wanted the truth to be brought to light and for her young children left behind to know what this man did to their Mother.

Of course, there is still a great deal of anger in Kari and I am sure it is justified but other than bringing her message to the best friend that came to see me, what can I do? Nothing. For me to stand up, visit the Police and let them know what Kari has told me would have no effect. It would not help the legal argument in any way. I don’t believe Mediums and especially psychics, should be involved in legal argument. The role we have to play is providing evidence that our loved ones are still with us, provide assistance to friends and loved ones when needed and offer a no nonsense, clear, unbiased, filter-free communication with those that are already dead.

Today, the boyfriend now has a new partner and freely wanders around his home town. My client, found an understanding of what had happened, it confirmed some thoughts and denounced others but ultimately she felt relief that her best friend was still with her and could still look out for her children.