Podium problems

Providing mediumship readings for people when in a large group of people is fraught with problems! I was once standing i

n front of a group when a teenage boy (dead) came through to me, he was pointing at a woman in the audience and said, “I came with her, I'm her brother.” There is nothing unusual about this except that I had the feeling that there had been abuse in the family. The boy went o

n to tell me that he had died in a car crash and that it wasn't an accident, he meant to end his life.

So, standing in front of a lot of people, most of which didn't know each other, I was faced with a problem. I knew this was going to be a great message to get across to the woman in the audience, at the same time I didn't want to embarrass her. I proceeded to tell the woman that I had a teenage boy with me and that he tells me he is your Brother. The woman's face turned a certain grey colour and all of a sudden I knew there was more to the message than expected.

The Brother proceeded to tell me that he had sexually abused his sister for a considerable period and wanted to let her know that he was sorry. Hmmm. . .

At that point I wanted to end the message by saying something non-de-script and move onto the next reading. But, it's not that simple! I can't give a vague message with no specific meaning and be done with it all. As a medium I have a responsibility to both the dead and the living. That teenage boy had a reason for coming through and even though that was not the best time or place, still he came through and wanted to be heard. Furthermore, the woman in the audience, now knowing that her brother was with me, needed an explanation and something to let her know everything is ok.

While keeping the audience in mind I told the woman that her brother is telling me there was a considerable period of unease at home and that he knows she knew what he meant. I went on to say that the evening he drove away from the house and died, he knew what was going to happen and believed this was the best thing for everyone. The woman acknowledged the message and I went on to tell er that he has spent a long time coming to terms with all he has done and wants to begin to say sorry. I suggested to the woman that she come and see me after the event and we would talk further.

Such messages are not at all uncommon, all families seem to be touched by tragedy of one description or another. I don't consider death as tragedy, of course it's upsetting when someone dies but tragedy is something altogether different. I feel there is a line which shouldn't be crossed in public when dealing with personal situations and it's a fine line. I still need the message to be personal, mean something to the audience and at the same time, not deliver anything so personal that is embarrasses the recipient.

Speaking with dead people is great, I love it and wouldn't change it for anything and even though there are times when the messages don't seem appropriate for the public arena. The benefits far, far outweigh the drawbacks even though each week I ask for the winning lottery numbers and never get them.